It's Thanksgiving in a few days. A time when we're all supposed to count our blessings and give thanks to whatever karma, God or good fortune we've been blessed with.
But what about when that's hard? What about when life is truly looking bleak, creating more questions than answers. Can you find what to be thankful for?
I was talking with a friend recently who is struggling with happiness. She made the point that she can find glimpses of it from kids or accomplishment but how do you find true happiness?
We often go through the motions of life without testing our own personal satisfaction. Businesses do it: "Please complete this survey telling us how we did." Why can't we do that as well? Take a survey of our lives:
What is working for you?
What is not working?
If you could change three things in your life what would they be?
Is it possible to make those changes? (Or maybe just one or two?)
What would prevent you from making those changes?
The questions can be as personal or general as you'd like for your survey but they have to make you think. You have to be challenged in your desire to create a life you love. Without challenge, desire and motivation we continue on the settled life of hazy acceptance or tunnel vision in our belief that we are stuck in our situation.
In coaching I'm great at asking the tough questions of others but not always so much for myself.
What do I want?
What do I need?
What can I accept?
What has to change?
How do I make that happen?
Change can be scary, hard, fantastic or traumatic. Change can transform us and reinvent us. Sometimes change is thrown on us and others we decide how, when or why it is happening.
You always have something to be thankful for, even if you have to dig deep to find it. But if you could create a life full of thankful things would it be worth the effort? Can you make change?