~Ralph Waldo Emerson
We know our version of horror and drama. Our news is not that different from any other city. So when a five year old was abducted it was horror and drama-as it should be.
But as seen with all horror stories emotions run high.
Let me be clear, the girl was found. In fact it's amazing how she was found. A few students from my alma mater (being the Lancaster City School District who often don't get the respect they deserve) decided that with the police and media surrounding their neighborhood they would do their own search.
What kids do that today? They would have to leave their Xbox and possibly NOT beat the next level!
These amazing boys not only went searching but found this young girl. Knowing the neighborhood well they were able to intimidate the suspect enough for him to set her free. She only asked for her Mommy and held on to her rescuer like he was a super hero. In a way he is, at least to her and her family.
But now I'm shocked and saddened by the amount of people blaming the mother and grandmother for such a terrible tragedy (there were signs the girl had experienced abuse). The media, as always, has helped this matter. They give partial information to paint the picture they want you to see.
But to blatantly blame anyone but the monster who did this is turning a knife that has already been inserted.
I for one have made my share of parenting mistakes. None, thankfully, have lead to anything newsworthy but that may be just the luck of the drawl. I have three children and I admit to being overwhelmed, stressed and possibly less vigilant than I should have been on occasion when they were little. So who am I to ever pass judgement on someone who had a completely bad card thrown at them.
I'm sure they are feeling every ounce of pain and guilt on their own without having the media or random people also condemning them.
So I ask you, have you been a perfect parent or person? Can you look back on your life and not see times when you thought "that could have been so much worse, I really lucked out."
If you can, well, you either have a selective memory or you're 12 ( and even that is questionable).
As with the Sandy Hook massacre, the Amish school house shooting or any other horrific crime that leaves behind external victims, let them heal.
Let them face their demons and heartbreak without additional pain thrust at them for no other reason than a need to point fingers and raise emotions.
I beg of you. Let them heal.
"Let him who is without sin cast the first stone."