"The trouble is, you think you have time."
Time is one of those always changing things. We either have too much time to kill or not enough hours in a day. We can save for the future or live in the moment. We can waste time, let it slip through our fingers, or use time wisely.
As we get to the end of 2013 it's customary to look back on the year and wonder what we did that made it good, bad or even memorable. Did we do anything selfless, exciting, enriching, motivating or life altering? What mistakes did we make that we regret but now know better? What chances, challenges, adventures did we not take?
And most importantly, what do we need to change for the future?
I wish I could __________.
We all have an answer. Lose 10 pounds, find a new job, travel, get out of a relationship, find a relationship, run a race or scratch something off of our bucket list; skydiving, visiting a certain country, zip lining, swimming with dolphins, taking a cruise, flying a plane....I've heard countless examples from people.
As a coach my suggestion is not to make a New Year resolution but instead a New Year PLAN.
Don't just say I'll start going to the gym, set a schedule. Call a friend for workouts and find something you will enjoy rather than begrudgingly do. With so many options; yoga, Pilates, spin, Cross Fit, or simply walking a few miles on a treadmill while watching your favorite show, any of it can give you results.
Don't dream about a destination, plan it. Price compare and look for deals. If you have to save start a separate account, sell unwanted items on eBay, Craigslist, Poshmark...etc. Get a rewards card to help with airfare or hotel expenses. Look for deals on Living Social, 50/50, Cheaptickets, Expedia, Travelocity or any of the many sites out there.
Finding a new job can be a job in itself. Searching Monster, Craigslist, local job sites, fairs and want adds can be time consuming and frustrating. But you have to send resumes, make contacts and at least try. You never know where it may lead.
Relationships are tricky. Leaving a bad one can feel like losing an extension of yourself. Decide your options and weigh the pros and cons but most of all measure your happiness above all else and decide what that picture looks like.
Finding love today is daunting. Dating sites can be an answer, many find them useful, just know you will meet a lot of bottom dwellers before you find the fish in the sea. Asking friends for an introduction or a double date can be a less scary idea. Group activities, classes, organizations of a more relaxed and social aspect can help with meeting new people that interest you. But you have to put yourself out there. Saturday nights with Ben & Jerry and Pay-Per-View are okay-just not every weekend.
Find out where you can do that one thing you've always wanted to try and set a date to check it out.
Stop saying "I wish I could" and start saying "I am going to."
Walt Disney said, "If you can dream it, you can do it."
So what is your New Year plan?
Happy New Year everyone.