Saturday, January 25, 2014

It's Not Easy Being Queen

"Women have been called queens for a long time, but the kingdom given them isn't worth ruling."
~Louisa May Alcott

This past week I've been getting ready to revamp my life and my schedule. After 18 years of raising three children, often working at least one if not two part time jobs, I'm heading back to the 40 hour work week while still maintaining my coaching business.

I've been trying for the last year to find something challenging and interesting that still pays a livable salary. As many of you know that is rough. It's especially hard when you haven't been on a "career" path. I am lucky enough to be given a shot with a great company. To say I'm nervous and excited is putting it mildly.

Finding a job for many right now is challenging. We most assuredly have a large variety of over educated workers in food service, custodial or retail at the moment. But women with children looking for work also have to consider the hours, childcare costs and often the sad statistic that 54% are paid below their potential.

I read an article recently on the NBC News website suggesting that all women getting married create a post-nuptial agreement protecting themselves financially for the loss of their career if they choose to stay home and raise their children.

Jeff Landers writes: "A women's child rearing years are usually her highest earning years.There's no mistaking the cruel timing here.For most women, the phase of life devoted to child rearing and the phase of life devoted to corporate-ladder-climbing tend to overlap."

And yet as women and mothers, when we do get an opportunity, we still are expected to do it all by some.  

My children's father refuses to take on any more responsibility then simply taking the kids when not working because it's not convenient. When my children were younger and I did want to go back to work full time I was told no, because he would have to get the kids ready in the morning (I would leave early) and he shouldn't have to due to his higher pay check. Yet I have been called lazy for not being able to snap my fingers and find a position over the last year, working jobs that have paid little but at least bring in income while sending out 2 to 20 resumes a week.

I have someone now who is a huge support for whatever I want to do in life and thankfully my boys are learning from that role model. And really, if we love someone we should be willing to sacrifice for their dreams instead of focusing on how inconvenient it might make our lives.That's what it means to be a partner.

So I applaud all of the women I know (and don't know) whether you're raising kids, working part or full time, or basically doing whatever you can in life to be Wonder Women. Thankfully we don't have to wear that skimpy outfit (unless what you do requires it and if so-you go girl) but I would love an invisible jet.

"Women hold up half the sky."
~Mao Zedong

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