Saturday, August 16, 2014

So What Happened?

"It's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of fight in the dog."
~Mark Twain

So the question from my blog "Deal with the Devil" is what happened?

The short version-it's not over.

The longer but still hopefully short version-it was going swimmingly well in my opinion. The accuser contradicted himself on the stand continually. Their only other witness on his side turned out to benefit us. And his attorney was a disorganized mess who was more interested in making loud rude comments "under her breathe" and asking multiple inane and irrelevant questions to take up huge amounts of time because, well, the accuser is paying $250 an hour so why not. You would think the highest priced law firm in the county would provide better.

And there I was with Rebecca, my wonderful and reasonably priced attorney, a huge support system and confidence of the truth on my side. Unfortunately time was not on our side. The judge has yet to hear Dan's testimony and his feeling is that will end the case. So we have to go mid-December!! Merry Freaking Christmas.

And the end all-being dragged into Domestics the same day because he didn't like how the courts crunched the numbers when removing our 18 year old from child support. First of all MY attorney found a problem in his taxes (he combined his and his wife's income) that saved HIM money. Second of all (I just got the documents) he has to pay about a quarter more than the first estimation. Well, bully for me on his cheapness-that bit him in the ass.

As much as I was hoping to have this monkey off of my back it's not. I have to wait five months for resolution. I am confident it will be fine as the insanity of it all was actual pure comedy at times in the court room. The judge was even getting exacerbated.

So it's not the size of the dog in the fight but the size of the fight in the dog. My attorney and I might both be fighting much bigger dogs, and the fight was brought to us, we didn't pick it, but we have courage, truth, amazing talent on her part, and the ability to defeat the big bullies.

"Victory is won not in miles but in inches. Win a little now, hold your ground, and later, win a little more."
~Louis L'Amour

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

O Captain, My Captain

"Comedy is acting out optimism."
~Robin Williams

Of course everyone knows the tragic loss of, in my opinion, the most talented comedian of my lifetime.

He oozed spontaneity, craziness, laughter and joy. You could see the warmth in his eyes whenever he was presented with a cause he cared about or a subject that touched his heart. He was warm and fuzzy (he was fuzzy) and in the next second bringing you to tears with laughter.

I first saw him on Happy Days as Mork from Ork (Nanu Nanu). It was short and sweet but lead to Mork and Mindy-what was my favorite show during it's run. Who can't forget the incredible Jonathan Winters (Robin William's mentor) as Mearth-their strange large child.

But as a young adult I loved how he could mix comedy with the most serious of subjects and make you laugh and cry in two hours. Good Morning Vietnam, Dead Poet's Society, Good Will Hunting, Patch Adams and so many other films that touched our hearts and tested our bladders.

Personally he was often a light at the end of a dark tunnel which is ironic when he was often fighting his own darkness. In a terrible marriage that made me often so sad I would look to Robin, in brilliance like The Bird Cage, The World According to Garp or Mrs. Doubtfire. I would watch for Today Show or Tonight Show interviews because it was "edge of your seat" excitement that made you wish it would never end.

My personal Robin favorite (and we all have one) is Dead Poet's Society. I have actually had a couple of teachers like Mr. Keating in my time as an English Major. A certain poetry professor at Gettysburg comes to mind-he even had the wild hair. But the language, the meaning, the lessons to be taken from that movie were truly inspiring and heartbreaking.

As he quoted Walt Whitman: "I sound my barbaric yawp over the rooftops of the world"' so did Robin. He sounded his joy, passion, brilliance and love for everyone over our rooftops and our world. He had quite a "yawp."

"You're only given a little spark of madness. You mustn't lose it."
~Robin Williams

You will be so missed.