".....And these children
That you spit on
as they try to change their worlds
are immune to your consultations.
They are quite aware
of what they are going through...."
The teenage years. I'm sure every one of us looks back both loving and hating that time of life. It's the most complicated ages, combining a new found freedom mixed with trying to figure out who you want to be as a person.
I've had the truly fantastic opportunity to work with, teach, and now coach some amazing teenagers over the last decade. They are, for the most part, my favorite age group. If you connect with them they will let you into their world and that, in my opinion, is a cool privilege.
But if you happen to be the parent of one of these teenager people you may be watching them struggle with so many issues with little ability to really help them. That is where coaching can be an amazing tool.
Unlike counseling or psychology coaching is for the mentally stable teen just working through time management, college decisions, peer issues or relationship questions as only a few of the multitude of areas a teenager deals with, the most relevant one being just figuring themselves out a bit.
One of my teenage clients recently shared a great story. She was having a bit of a panic attack surrounding an event she was attending. Her mother, trying to calm her down, simply stated, "What would Marilu suggest you try to do?" So she began to think about our discussions and the many ways we've worked on her confidence and self-awareness. She immediately felt better and faced her challenge with grace.
Coaching can be so cool.
Just imagine, as a teenager, having the gift of someone who will listen to you completely, without judgment or opinion, and guide you, center you and acknowledge what a good person you are or how well you are doing when you reach your goals. It's a trusted friend, their best listener and their constant support system.
How might it have helped you both then and maybe now?
Do you know of or are you a teen whose life could truly be altered by coaching? There is an alternative to all day Saturday detention for self-discovery.
"You see us as you want to see us, in the simplest terms, in the most convenient definitions. But what we found out is that each one of us is a brain....and an athlete....and a basket case....a princess....and a criminal. Does that answer your question?"
~The Breakfast Club