Sunday, March 20, 2016

It's a Facebook World

"If you can't stop thinking about someone's update, that's called 'status cling'."
~Jessica Park, Flat-Out Love

It's a Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat and hashtag world and I long for the good old days (insert old fart joke here). I long for the days when I had to call or see my friends to catch up. I long for the days when I only knew things about people because it came up in a conversation.

I miss the time when I didn't know political views unless you had a bumper stick. I actually wish the only news I received was by reading the paper or the 5:00 o'clock show. It's scary to me that relationships can be destroyed by a difference of opinion, overreaction or misreading of written text.

I hate that there is such a thing as cyber-bullying and children as well as adults can be ruined with a keystroke. Face to face bullying is bad enough.

That being said, I love how easy it is to reconnect with people you know all over the world. I love finding out about interesting events and great changes in my community. I benefit from free advertising to get my business noticed. I can have several private groups such as a book club or support group and we can easily plan and discuss ideas.

So I sometimes envy the Amish and their lack of connectivity but declaring to join them is a whole different issue. It's like an abusive relationship with the epitome of laughter, love and benefits only to suddenly be hit in the face with a baseball bat once a day.

I'm curious how others view this society we are becoming. Is it a great new world of growth and progress or are we putting ourselves on a path to small destructions either personally or as a whole?

Could you disconnect?

"Can we go back to using Facebook for what it was originally for - looking up exes to see how fat they got?
~Bill Maher

Friday, March 18, 2016

I'm Not Dead Yet

"I'm not afraid of death; I just don't want to be there when it happens."
~Woody Allen

My family was discussing when we should get tickets to see a certain superhero movie we are all excited about (with a certain female hero most of you know I girl crush on). I warned them that Friday night I have my "I'm not dead yet dinner." My kids were briefly appalled.

Let me explain.

A group of us get together every other month to celebrate the fact that one gorgeous girl is still with us, fighting the good fight against cancer that's taken residence and likes the host too much to move out. She's gracious that way. We, being a group of hilariously funny people (just ask us) adopted this name compliments of the lead class clown (she's a sexy one at that).

If you have taste in comedy it probably makes you think of the Monty Python Holy Grail scene "bring out your dead!" and you get the idea.  "I think I'll go for a walk!"

Really, all of us, every chance we get, should celebrate not being dead. Seriously, every minute is a gift. Every wasted moment, adventure, opportunity, regret is our own fault in the end. We all have an expiration date.

We hold these excursions like gold because one day our group will grow smaller and it's never a given which one of us it will be. Life and death are unpredictable that way.

Cherish your friends, family and most of all yourself. Give the gift of connecting as much as possible with the people you love and the things you enjoy. Don't wait.

You're not dead yet.